There has been a great debate over the years as to whether or not a single parent environment negatively affects children or not. Now, we all know that each case has its own particulars and not all cases involving a single parent environment are the same. But there are studies that show some negative effects on some children raised in a single parent environment. Here are just some of the problems your child may (or may not) have when being raised in a single parent environment. Think of these as food for thought.

Let’s start with education. Studies have shown children that are raised in a single parent environment have lower grades than those who are raised in a home with both parents. This can be in a home where the child has always been raised by one parent or in homes where a divorce or separation has recently taken place. Studies also show children raised in a single parent environment are less likely to go to college or take steps to continue their education. There are also a higher percentage of drop outs that were raised in a single family home. While the data gathered in this study may be true in some cases, I have to be honest and politely add a rebuttal. I was raised by a single parent who was not formally education. But, because of her support, I excelled in school. I also have many friends and associations from single parent homes also did pretty darn good in school as well!  While I am not discrediting this study, I will say that a child’s performance in education should not be based on the number of parents in the home. Is it more challenging for single parents, well, of course it is. But should it be allowed to grow into a negative factor for kids and teens? Absolutely not!

We have also recently learned that there is a negative effect on children’s behavior particularly during the first year of a separation or divorce. This occurs for a number of reasons. The first reason is that the child is not receiving an equal amount of affection and attention from both parents. Studies show children act more calmly when both parents are in the home and are able to pay attention to their children. Another reason your child may act out, particularly during the first year is that the parent who has the custody or even both parents may act distant and not be able to pay as much attention to the child as they were able to before. Many parents find themselves distracted and allow their child more freedoms than they are used to and that they will not discipline like they would before the divorce or separation. I have talked to many folks who were the product of a divorced household when they were young. In almost all of the cases, there was indeed a rough “adjustment” period for the child. Because of this, it is so very important for those parents who are separating to do so as amicably as possible.

Lastly, there are studies that state children who are raised in a single parent environment may be more prone to depression. There are times where a single parent environment may be more stressful than a home with two active parents. This can cause a negative effect on their ability to concentrate and find enjoyment in things and activities they once liked. Unfortunately, this study does ring true in most cases. In a poll we conducted in 2008, most of those we talked to did recall a period of personal depression over not having their mom or dad at home. Some cited a brief depression period. Others succumbed to a depression that adversely affected their lives over a long period of time. Either way, the mental health of children in single parent homes should never be taken lightly. The effects can be far reaching.

Blessings!

Traci

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